Thursday, May 13, 2010

The Girlfriend's Guide to Metal Shows

Hails! Grym Kym here! Let me begin with a brief preface to assure you that I am qualified to dispense advice on the subject of having breasts and attending metal shows. I've been going to metal shows for years now and have finally perfected the formula for having a fucking awesome time. It's quite simple really. Booze + live metal = fucking fun. But if you're just starting out you may need a little advice. Or maybe you don't. This entry will probably be the most useful to the girls who are just going because their boyfriends are. If you are one of those girls, heed my advice. No matter how you feel about metal now, I am quite positive that you can have a great time. Maybe even a better time than your metal-head boyfriend. Perhaps metal could even change your life.

Personally, I am a big fan of viking/folk and power metal. I also like some symphonic black metal, but any metal show can be enjoyed by all. Even though I wouldn't sit around my house and listen to Cephalic Carnage, or drive around town with Pig Destroyer at max volume, I would still go out of my way to see them live. Live metal is good metal. It's all about the experience. I have been lucky enough to see some amazing live shows, such as Nightwish, Amon Amarth and Sonata Arctica. Other bands I've seen include, but are not limited to: 1349, Goatwhore, Celtic Frost, Dragonforce, Testament, Municipal Waste, Zephania, Lazarus A.D., Cannibal Corpse, Manilla Road, and of course, local favorite, Hammerlord.

Alright, good. Now you are convinced that I know a thing or two. Over the years I have learned what to do to maximize your viewing pleasure.


WHAT YOU NEED TO DO

  • Dress for the occasion - Keep in mind that if all goes well, you will be attending a night of guzzling beer, chain smoking cigarettes and head banging. Whatever you do, do not wear a skirt. Especially not a short one. Having a hand up my skirt in a mosh pit was enough to teach me that lesson. Your best option is jeans and a t-shirt. Go with a plain t-shirt or tanktop, preferably black, or a t-shirt with the name of a good metal band on the front. If you're a n00b and you're not sure which metal bands are cool, don't risk it. ICP, Slipknot and Disturbed are all no-no's. Iron Maiden and Slayer are safe bets and can be worn to shows of varying metal genres. If you're like me, and aren't into denim and tees, try mixing it up with some hot black skinny jeans and a red low cut shirt. Metal loves cleavage, and it's a lot harder for some loser to covertly cop a feel of your boobs than to slyly slide a hand up your thigh. You'll be able to see them and punch them in the face, or get your man to do it for you. My standard metal show attire consists of black skinny jeans, comfortable flats (make sure they fit snugly so you don't lose one in the insanity of it all), a red tank top, a black, tight, v-neck shirt, black eyeliner and red lipstick. Black is the best to wear on top because if you're doing everything right, you should break a sweat, and you don't want that to show. Don't wear anything expensive or too well-loved. It could get ruined.

  • Drink excessively- If you're not that into metal and you don't drink, then just don't go. I promise you won't have too much fun if you're soberly milling about. You'll end up staring at merch for three hours. I enjoy going to metal shows and I like to get into it, but I definitely need a little buzz to get me loosened up. The most fun I've ever had was at a power metal show in Kansas City. I drank PBR tall boys and headbanged with the guys. It's more fun the more you get into it. Your first time headbanging might make you feel a little silly, but if you get a few beers in you, you won't be worried about what anyone thinks of you. And I hope that you're not too worried about the opinions of the sullen mallcore kid with myspace hair or the forty year old man wearing a Goatwhore t-shirt. Finding a hot guy at a metal show is kind of like looking for a needle in a haystack... so leave your insecurites with the door guy.

DRINKING TALLBOYS WITH MANILLA ROAD:

  • Drink whiskey or beer - Anything other than whiskey or beer is NOT METAL. Don't sip on a vodka tonic with a lime or, heaven forbid, Mike's Hard Lemonade. Long Island Ice Tea is acceptable, but only because it will get you drunk fast. Getting drunk fast is metal.


  • Get to the stage - Metal is not meant to be observed from the back of a venue. You need to be up close and personal to get the full experience. I would have to say that the entertainment value of a metal show is 25% music and 75% stage presence. You're going to see a lot of shitty metal bands. You'll probably see about twenty shitty bands for every awesome one, but a show with shitty bands can still be a good time. I love getting right in front. It's pretty cool when the lead singer of some black metal band is scanning the crowd while growling hateful lyrics into the microphone and his eyes fall on you. Makes you wonder what it would be like if he punched you in the face while wearing those spiked gauntlets. Exhilerating! And when the bassist of a power metal band starts headbanging in a circular motion, flinging his long, wavy locks round and round, you'll probably get some of his sweat on you. Good thing you took my advice and didn't wear anything expensive or special.


  • Talk to people - Guys may not approach you because metal heads aren't famous for their social skills (Tom G. Warrior's idea of hitting on me was to say, "Give me kiss?"), so you're going to have to do the work. It's really fun to talk to some of these people, once you've learned enough to weed out the losers (you can usually spot them by what band's t-shirt they're wearing). Don't waste your time talking to anyone wearing bondage pants. Bondage pants and the people who wear them are gross. If you're looking for conversation, the merch table is always a good place to go. You're a girl at a metal show, they'll talk to you. You're a novelty and a prize (as long as you're in the states). A lot of times you'll find some of the band members hanging around the merch. Talk to them! They will want to talk to you, especially because of your gender, unless, of course, they're from Europe. If they're from Europe, they probably have more of a problem not getting laid when they're playing at home. Don't be offended if the Europeans aren't beguiled by you. They're like Gods where they come from.

TALK TO THESE GUYS:

DO NOT TALK TO THIS GUY:

  • Don't be a fan girl - Just don't. You should know what I mean. You're reading this blog, so you must be pretty cool. We all have a little fan girl inside of us, but don't let it out. There's a time and a place for that: your room when you're alone. Don't be annoying. Don't give us metal chicks a bad name.

  • Leave your purse in the car - You don't want to be carrying around your purse at a metal show. Unless you are sneaking in beer, just leave it in the car. It's much harder to let go and have a good time if you're lugging a purse around and worrying about it. But, and this is important, if you do leave it in the car make sure to put it in the trunk. This is true for everywhere and all the time, but the majority of metal shows take place at sketchy venues so be extra careful. I left my purse in my boyfriend's car at a 1349 show and someone broke the window and stole a bunch of shit. We had to drive home on the highway in the cold without a window. It was pretty metal, but it also pretty much sucked.
  • Get the fuck into it - Yell, pump your fists, throw up the horns, take a shot of Kentucky Gentlemen, do coke with the drummer from Goatwhore, punch someone in the face! Whatever you need to do to get the fuck into it, do it. It's worth it, just make sure you have some ibuprofen to take for your bangover.

    If you have any questions, such as, "what's the best way to wash that one guy's corpsepaint off of my face after a makeout session?", just let me know and I'd be more than happy to help out!


    \m/\m/
    -Grym Kym





    Just remember... this guy is probably more afraid of you than you are of him.....




  • 10 comments:

    Furil said...

    great post! makes me wish i was firstly a girl and secondly a metal fan ---

    Leah said...

    Awesome advise! I am the not so metal girl that goes to a ton of metal shows and I have a great time. And if you want to really scare the studded black leather forest gnome, wear a hot pink victorias secret sweatshirt. Went to a last minute show in one and scared everyone away!

    Anonymous said...

    Black leather legging pants?

    Anonymous said...

    Yes.... their great.

    Anonymous said...

    Hahahaha

    Anna Hipur said...

    Going to see 'System of a down' with a guy I like. He already bought us tickets as a gift for my birthday.. But in reality I'm kind of not into metal. It's just not my thing, but I could never tell him. Any advice on how to survive the night without dying of fear and disappointing him?

    Anna Hipur said...

    Going to see 'System of a down' with a guy I like. He already bought us tickets as a gift for my birthday.. But in reality I'm kind of not into metal. It's just not my thing, but I could never tell him. Any advice on how to survive the night without dying of fear and disappointing him?

    Marachime said...

    hey thanks for your post. you have given me a lot of useful advice.
    i'm going to see korn in 2 weeks and i am PUMPED but have no idea what to wear. what do you think of fishnets/black jean shorts/some sort of tshirt? also, i wear glasses and will want booze and such so i was thinking i could wear a bum bag around my waist under my shirt or something and then i won't lose/break my glasses or my money should i want to mosh (which i've not done before).

    but i'm mostly worried about my footwear. i have some mad fish boots but they rub and i don't want to have painful feet when i'm trying to live in the moment. do you think some canvas shoes will be okay? i have some underground shoes that are kinda converse-style deals but with beautiful red spiderwebs all over them. there's going to be a lot of people there and i bet i'll get trodden on. i also don't want my shoes to get ruined.
    what do you think? should i wear some steel toe cap shoes that i got for work even though they look gross? or will i be okay with canvas shoes?

    thanks and take care <3

    Pamela Manz said...
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    OnlineRetooling said...

    hi. You are fantastic! Thank you for this post. I am a 40 something fan of Tony MacAlpine and my husband, though cool enough to watch our kids for me, won't go (not a metal guy). So it's me and the merch folks and your great advice! PS this gig is in a seedy neighbourhood. Thanks for the advice about the purse!